This is a great question and deserves a lot of consideration. Many pastors’ wives feel neglected or unfilled. They are often ignored while the pastor spends inordinate amounts of time with church members. No pastor’s wife should feel lonely or that she is an imposition on her husband. No preacher’s child should ever feel neglected or mistreated.
It is essential that a pastor spend time, both quality and quantity, with his family. This means that your family always understands that they come first, even before your church. This also means alone time spent with your wife and time with the family together.
Take vacations every year, find a hobby to share with your children, eat as many meals together as possible.
Certainly, like any working man, time must be given to the responsibilities of the job and ministry is probably more time demanding than some other professions.
You set aside days or nights of the week for family and protect that time as much as is possible. It is good to be part of your child’s life at school and other things important to them. This is not just the wife’s job.
It is also a good idea to be spontaneous. When your schedule opens up, maybe expectedly, take that opportunity to spend time with your family.
In no way is it excusable for a pastor’s to try to reach the world and neglect his own family. In fact, from time to time, we need to stop and take inventory of how we are doing in this area and even ask your family for suggestions on how to be better husband and dad.